The definition of obsessing according to Google is this:
[To] Preoccupy or fill the mind of (someone) continually, intrusively, and to a troubling extent:
Obsession in relationships is so common these days. Even to the point of people being overly obsessive. Most think obsession is fairly innocent and a common occurrence that goes hand-in-hand with infatuation. But is it actually as innocent as it seems? Well, over time obsession can grow to an extent that is far from healthy.
One reason is that it can effect your friendships. I read this on Project Inspired once, but I shrugged it off. However, over time, I’ve found it to be true. Gushing about guys around your gals is probably something that we’ve all done at some time or another, but those “little gushes” can turn into feelings of distance, annoyance, and even jealousy. Anyone who has gone down that road will tell you to avoid it. The best way? There is a time for talking about boys, but also make sure that you are as enthusiastic and interested in their hobbies, dreams, lives, and most importantly, their relationships with our Heavenly Father. We should be so obsessed with God that no other relationship can compare to ours’ with Him.
Secondly, it can effect THE relationship. Some guys prefer the flirty girls, but a good Christian guy doesn’t want a girl who is batting her eyes at every “blessed” male out there. A good Christian guy is going to be looking for a girl who is so lost head-over-heels in love with God that he has to deepen his relationship with Him before she’ll even give him a second look. Also, I think we owe it not only to our future husbands, but to God, to be this way. Think of it like this…
You’re dad made you a gift that was beyond all of your wildest dreams. He told you that he had made it, but that it wasn’t the right time to give it to you. You were ok with that for awhile…but you soon grew tired of the waiting game. You started looking online and in stores for that perfect “something”, and you started obsessing over them. Time and time again your dad saw this. It hurt him because you were not satisfied enough with his promise to wait for something that he had made perfectly and only for you. You may not have bought those “somethings”, but you were still being impatient and maybe even selfish because you didn’t want to wait.
That gift is your future husband. Those “somethings” are all the other guys out there. Check the inventory every little while, but don’t even wish for someone you know the Lord would not have “him” to be. Save your affection and obsessions for the One.
Lastly, it can effect your reputation. What are your thoughts to girls who are overly obsessive or flirty? What is their reputation? Do they show love for God, or do they seem rather distant? Don’t be the girl with this reputation. Be the girl who God’s love radiates from; be a girl after God’s own heart. Be the girl who every guy can look at and see a virtuous woman in the making. Be the girl who is not looking for Prince Charming but instead exclaims with confidence, “My Prince Charming has already come!”. Set your focus and base your life’s decisions on God, and you will be 100% satisfied. Guaranteed!