5 Lies About Your Identity That the World Desperately Wants You to Believe

In a world like ours, teen girls are faced with so many opinions, declarations, and lies about our identity.  The struggle is SO real for us Christian, teen girls who are striving to lead a life that honors the Lord.  But just how are we supposed to survive in such chaotic deceit?  By learning how to discern the difference between the lies and the truth.  Today we are going to do just this to five lies about your identity that the world desperately wants you to believe.

#1  You’re not gorgeous.

These days, gorgeous pretty much means having a perfect body.  From the color and style of your hair, to the length of your nose, to how thin you are.  Now they can even measure your beauty.  Using a ratio.  Yep.  You read correctly.  I was shocked too when I read a post and watched a vlog on a Christian site called Girl Defined where they explained how it works.  They take measurements of say your forehead, the space between your eyebrows and your nose, your nose to your upper lip, and your bottom lip to your chin.  Your measurements and how close you are to the ‘perfect ratio’ is how they define how gorgeous you are.  Ridiculous, isn’t it?  However, there is some good news; we’re not defined by a math equation.  Psalm 139:14 says,

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully [emphasis mine] made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

I don’t see anything about a ratio in that verse, do you?  Of course not!  The Bible says that we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God-we are His works of art!  You don’t have to live up to a number on a tape measure or a scale because you’re gorgeous and priceless just the way you are!

#2 You have to have a boyfriend.

Ok.  So yeah, most girls would like to eventually have a boyfriend because most girls want to get married someday and have a family of their own.  But the pressure to have a boyfriend even in your preteen years is absolutely terrible.  Girls, you are not defined by another human being.  I know it can sometimes feel that way.  And often we think way too much of a guy’s opinion of us.  But you don’t need any guy’s opinion.  You don’t need any guy’s approval; the Lord has already given you His approval!  He thinks you’re to die for-literally.  

Ephesians 1:4

According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:

God chose you for Himself even before He created the world!  Now who needs more approval than that?  And what’s more, the whole point of being in a relationship is not just to have the admiration of a guy.  It’s to find a guy who loves the Lord as much as you do and who encourages and challenges you in your walk with Christ!  Wait for someone who will rather you have a date with Jesus every day before you even think of texting him.  Use this time of your life to chase God rather than chase a guy (and this is difficult, I know, which is why you can only do it through prayer, reading scripture, and discipline), and the Lord will send you the right one in His timing.

#3 You need to have complete control over your life.

Independence.  Get away from your parents, the barriers, the accountability, and especially God.  Get a life.

How many stories have you heard of teens who fall head-over-heels with this lie and their lives were completely ruined because of it?  I’m sure you can think of numerous.  The world seems to think that being independent is pretty ‘cool’.  Doing whatever you want to do, going wherever you want to go, and always pleasing yourself.  At least that’s what they think.  After a couple of years of independence they wonder why they still feel something missing.  Why they feel so alone.  Why they feel so discontent, or why having everything is never enough.  The missing piece to the puzzle isn’t so puzzling.  It’s actually just one word and the number one thing on their list to get away from: God.  What they never realized is that they were leaving behind the one vital necessity to living life.  Without the love of Christ, you have nothing.  You are nothing.

One of my favorite songs is In Christ Alone…

In Christ alone my hope is found;
He is my light, my strength, my song;
This cornerstone, this solid ground,
Firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
When fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My comforter, my all in all—
Here in the love of Christ I stand.

In Christ alone, Who took on flesh,
Fullness of God in helpless babe!
This gift of love and righteousness,
Scorned by the ones He came to save.
Till on that cross as Jesus died,
The wrath of God was satisfied;
For ev’ry sin on Him was laid—
Here in the death of Christ I live.

There in the ground His body lay,
Light of the world by darkness slain;
Then bursting forth in glorious day,
Up from the grave He rose again!
And as He stands in victory,
Sin’s curse has lost its grip on me;
For I am His and He is mine—
Bought with the precious blood of Christ.

No guilt in life, no fear in death—
This is the pow’r of Christ in me;
From life’s first cry to final breath,
Jesus commands my destiny.
No pow’r of hell, no scheme of man,
Can ever pluck me from His hand;
Till He returns or calls me home—
Here in the pow’r of Christ I’ll stand.

Beautiful, isn’t it?  I wish the whole world could hear this song and realize that Christ alone is all they’ve ever needed.  You don’t need independence.  We only need the saving grace of God.

John 3:16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.


#4 You need to ignore all the other voices and follow your heart.

Now you might be a little puzzled on this one.  You may be thinking “Wait a second…shouldn’t I be following my heart because since I’m a Christian, Christ is in my heart?”.  Well, yes, in that sense.  But this is not what the phrase, ‘follow your heart’, is implying.  It really means, ‘follow your feelings’.  You see, even as born again believers, we still have a sinful flesh and nature.  Becoming a Christian doesn’t mean you’ll never sin again, but it sure would have made things a whole lot easier, wouldn’t it? 😀 But that’s not the case.  Your flesh still desperately wants you to ignore the voice of the Holy Spirit and to live for the world.  When faced with temptation, it’s that little voice that whispers “Maybe it’s not all that bad.”, “No one is watching; I can get away with it.”, or “Just this once.”.  Listen to the one that says “You know that’s wrong.”, “God is always watching.”, and “One time is enough to wreck your life.”; that is the voice you need to try to always heed.  And I say try because we’re not perfect, and we are going to sin, but you can avoid a lot of trouble and heartache if you follow God instead of your heart.  If you’re unsure of a decision, pray, study God’s Word, and seek counsel from a parent, mentor, pastor or youth director; I promise you won’t be sorry!

Jeremiah 17:9

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

Proverbs 1:33

But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.

#5 You have to be a feminist.

Our culture is so twisted on this thing called feminism, and it’s absolutely disgraceful. First off, we don’t have to be a feminists in order to embrace and love being females.  We don’t need put down and disrespect males.  We don’t need to abort our children because it’s ‘our body’.  We don’t need to claim that our rights are being neglected because realistically, we have just as many rights as males.  We are the next generation of women, and I don’t wish for it to be a generation where women take the role of ‘head of the house’.  That’s not the purpose God intended for women.  We were made to respect and honor the males God has placed in our lives.  We were made to grow up to be mothers who love our children and raise them to honor the Lord and strive to help point them to having a personal relationship with Him.  We were made to be meek and gentle, but also bold and strong when the time comes for us to be so.  We are the next generation, and I wholeheartedly believe that we can be females who conduct ourselves according to God’s design (Proverbs 31).


I hope this post has helped you to identify a few of the lies the world wants you to believe and has encouraged you to seek the truth.

In Christ Alone,




How much is too much?


That’s right. Today we’re talking about cosmetics. No, I’m not going to give you beauty tips. I’m going to talk about Christianity and makeup. Some people seem to think they don’t jive. Well, I disagree … to a certain extent. So here are my thoughts – and my advice – to you.

As girls, we want to look our best. We like to be pretty. Makeup can definitely enhance our natural beauty … or cover up anything you don’t think is beautiful. We also want to feel safe. Makeup can give you security. We want to be accepted. Makeup is definitely popular nowadays.

This isn’t going to be another post about you being beautiful on the inside. Being beautiful on the inside is what counts – but that’s not what this post is about. This post is about makeup.

I think I was about twelve when I started wearing cosmetics of any kind (except for costumes or when my big sisters put it on me). Of course, I only wore something to cover up that nasty acne (which was almost nonexistent then … *sigh*) and some lip gloss. I only bothered to put it on for special occasions.

Now? You won’t see me go a day without putting on my mascara and cover up if not more. Now, that’s not a lot, I know … but it’s every day no matter what and I don’t feel put-together until I put it on.

Here’s what I look like in the morning before and after makeup:


It’s a bit of a difference … but it’s not a lot. I argue that, after some of the sleep got washed off of me, I wouldn’t look too bad without makeup.

So why do I feel like I need to wear it? Do I wear it for other people? No, I don’t think so. I’m not aching to attract a boy (my friends will affirm this … *apologizes to a lot of boys for being mean to them as kids*), my family knows what I look like without makeup, and most of my friends don’t wear makeup anyway.

So that must mean I wear it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. But in the Bible it says …

“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

We’re obviously not supposed to be too focused on outward beauty, then, right? Which means we shouldn’t wear makeup … right?

Well, to be honest, I don’t think the act of wearing makeup is wrong. I think you can wear any amount of makeup and still be a godly woman.

What matters is why.

Here are some bad reasons to wear makeup.

You Probably Shouldn’t Wear Makeup …

  • To attract boys. Look, you can’t wear that stuff for the rest of your life! 😉 Seriously, though, if you can’t attract him without makeup – without a face, for that matter – then he’s not worth it. Trust me. Whether or not you wear makeup in this case is totally irrelevant. (Not that you should remove all your makeup every time you meet a guy. That would be a hassle. Just that that shouldn’t be your reason for wearing it.)
  • To attract friends. Again, anyone who cares about how you look isn’t worth your time. You are a special, unique person, created by God for His glory, and you don’t need to be involved in any kind of meaningful relationship with anyone who judges you based on how you look.
  • To be beautiful. Hooooold it there, why else would you wear makeup? Well, I have some pretty good reasons, but first let me explain why this is a reason not to wear makeup. You already all beautiful! I thought we established this fact already. There’s no need to add a bunch of gunk onto your face. Cosmetics can’t make you beautiful. They can add to your natural beauty … or they can erase the true you and replace her with someone else, depending on how you use them. But they can’t make you beautiful.

Now that we’ve gotten through those, let’s move on to some good reasons for wearing makeup.

You Should Wear Makeup …

  • To dress up. Makeup is no different than a fancy dress and a new pair of shoes! You wear nice clothes to church, right? Then wear makeup to church, too, if you choose to! So wear makeup because you want to ‘dress up’ nicely.
  • To glorify God. Say what? That’s right! As I said before, wearing makeup is no different than putting on nice clothes … and if you can put on nice clothes to glorify God (which I really think you can), then you can put on makeup to glorify God. You are His perfect creation, and you represent Him. Look your best!
  • To have fun. You gotta admit, putting makeup on is fun!

So is wearing makeup wrong? Not at all! However, you can wear makeup for the wrong reasons. So take a peek inside your heart. Why do you wear makeup? Is it really for the right reasons, and are you really honoring God by doing so?

Let’s go back to the title question.

How much is too much?

There is no such thing! Wear as much makeup as you want to wear. Just remember that, as a Christian, you are representing God, so …

  • Don’t call unnecessary attention to yourself. Leave that to the movie stars and models. 😉
  • Don’t make yourself look garish or ridiculous. Remember that makeup is to enhance your natural beauty … not to make a whole new you!
  • Let God be your guide. If you feel like makeup is going to call attention away from what is important – namely glorifying God – then don’t wear it! Use your conscience. 🙂

Before I go, a quick disclaimer:

It’s not just up to you.

Your parents get to make the final decision as to whether you wear makeup or not and how much makeup you wear. Remember to respect their opinions. They probably have a good reason for their decisions. If you want more makeup privileges, try bringing it up to them in a respectful manner. 🙂

Thanks for reading,


Do you wear makeup? Why or why not? What kind of makeup do you wear (if you do)? How often do you wear it? What are your thoughts on the great makeup debate? Comment below!

Merry Christmas! And I mean it.


Hiya y’all!

Before I go any farther, I just want to say …


Don’t you DARE be afraid to say it to EVERYONE you meet in these next couple weeks! HAPPY HOLIDAYS IS HEREBY BANNED FROM YOUR VOCABULARY!!! Politically correct? Puhleeze. Don’t even try. Trust me; it’s impossible to be a politically correct Christian (see my most favorite non-carol Christmas song).

Why can’t you be a politically correct Christian?

Because the Truth isn’t politically correct anymore.

It isn’t politically correct to say that homosexuality is a sin.

It isn’t politically correct to say that women can’t kill their babies.

It isn’t politically correct to say that Jesus Christ is the only Way, the only Truth, and the only Life.

Never be afraid to shout the truth to the world! Don’t fight with every person you come into contact with … but you do have to stand up for what you believe in.

Sorry for this being such a short post, but hopefully it’s ‘short and sweet.’ 😉


Finding Beauty

*credit to the owner of the original photo.  Edit by me*

Hello Everyone!

Before I plunge into this post, I just want to apologize for neglecting this blog so much.  I really have no excuse.  I will try to post more frequently. 🙂

Now, beauty.  That’s a word that every girl, every teen, and every woman wants to be, no doubt about it.  The definition, according to Google is this:

a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight

But Google has it all wrong.  Read again the definition “…pleases the senses…especially the sight”.  Well, having one person say that you’re beautiful and another say that you’re not, does not determine if you are.

Now here is what God says about beauty:

Ecclesiastes 3:11

 “He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.” (KJV)
So here the writer is saying that God has made everything, everyone, beautiful.  You might say, “Oh, that can’t be true.  I’m ugly.”.  Well, the honest truth is that, surprise!  You’re far from ugly.  And why?  Because while we’re not perfect, God is!  We think that we’re just full of flaws, but fail to realize that God is flawless!  How could we be full of mistakes when our Creator is not capable of making them?  Now you may say, “But, I don’t understand.  How can we be flawless when nothing in this life is perfect?”.  That’s true.  We’re not perfect.  But God didn’t mess up when He created you.  That spray of freckles across your nose, your skin that fails time and time again to tan, and your hair that can’t decide whether it wants to be wavy or straight are all part of a beautiful person called YOU.  While we point out the flaws, the Lord points out the good in all things.  He is the potter, you are the clay.  Let Him form you into what He calls perfection.  Reach down inside of yourself and find the beauty that has always been there.  Look on the bright side, be confident in yourself as a daughter of the King, and don’t listen when others try to put you down.  You can find the beauty…because God found it in YOU…