Peer pressure. I’ve always wondered if I struggle with it. I think that I act like myself, but there are times I question. “Am I doing, acting like, or wearing this because I like it, and it’s who I am, or because I’m just trying to impress my peers?”
I’m going to make a confession. I really struggle with self confidence. In fact, I’ve also struggled with things like obsession, doubt, believing that I truly am beautiful because the Lord made me in His image, and several other things. However, one conclusion I’ve discovered in my on-going battle with self confidence is the fact that the approval of peers will not satisfy you. At ALL. I’ve always known that Jesus is the only person who can give me confidence, but I’ve been guilty of thinking that the approval of friends, acquaintances, AND confession time again, guys, will make me feel a little better about myself. However, I found out differently as a result of some experiences at church camp this past summer. To make a long story short, a guy was trying to flirt with me, one of my best friends said that a guy was staring at me with his mouth wide open(who was probably around four years older than me…creepy awkward…), and all the guys from ages 12 to about 15 took a vote on the prettiest girls at camp; I was number four-under my bestie who is one of those naturally “drop dead gorgeous” girls, and two girls who were obsessed with their hair and makeup. Most girls would flip if that happened to them, but guess what? I went right back to feeling like a flop. Those guys’ approval didn’t do anything to my confidence. Sure, it felt good for a day or two, but after that? Not at all. I was back to a deflated attitude of esteem.
However, I praise the Lord for that experience because He proved me wrong-that only HE can give me the satisfaction and approval my soul craves. It’s good to get a “Jesus spanking” every once and a while, and I’m so glad He gave me one. Why? Because I’ve discovered that it pays to be yourself and to be the beautiful person God created you to be. The Lord made each one of us UNIQUE; whether it’s one-of-a-kind personalities, or out-of-the-ordinary physical features. There is no one else like you in the Universe!!! Think of how special that is! Buuut, like I often do, you may reply “Yes, I know that, but just knowing doesn’t cut it.”
1 Samuel 16:7 (KJV)
7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
Yeah, maybe not at first, but that’s when I have to look at my heart. The closer I am, the closer you are with God, the more confident I/you will be! When we are close in or walks with God, we won’t see all of our flaws and imperfections. Instead, we’ll see all the good because we want to find ways to honor God and give Him glory for all that He has blessed us with. Just like 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “…man looketh at the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” The more Christ-like we become, the more we will apply the latter part of that verse. And once you believe that, others will too! You’ll look at others the way Christ sees them, and because of this action, they’ll see Christ in you. Now isn’t that beautiful?! Uniqueness truly is a gift from God, and I believe that we all can learn to use that gift the way God designed. 🙂